Pegging has been having its moment for a while now, and for good reason. At its real magic isn’t just about the toy, it’s about what happens when you flip roles, explore power dynamics, and open the door to a whole new kind of pleasure.
If you are the one getting pegged, there’s potential for prostate stimulation, which Men’s Health calls “the male G-spot” for a reason. If you are the one doing the strapping, there’s a thrill in taking charge, experimenting with angles, and trying on a role you might not usually play. Either way, pegging invites both partners to push past the mundane and lean into curiosity.
Bringing up pegging doesn’t have to feel like you’re confessing a taboo fantasy. Keep it light. You could say, “I read about pegging and it sounded kind of hot. What do you think?” or even, “Would you be into me strapping one on sometime?” It doesn’t need to be a dramatic reveal. Curiosity, not pressure, is the key. And if your partner says no, that’s okay. Consent is sexy, and so is respect.
Pegging has made its way into pop culture too. From that unforgettable Broad City episode to TikToks where people casually joke about buying harnesses, it’s not as underground as it once was. Sometimes even mentioning those references can be a way to start the conversation.
If you’re on the receiving end, start slow. Experiment with fingers or a small anal toy (with a flange! Not something that can get lost up there and end in a trip to the emergency room!) to learn what feels good. If you’re the one strapping in, get used to the harness first. Thrusting with a strap-on is not the same as using your own body. A little practice solo can save you from feeling awkward later.
And remember, lube is your new best friend. Anal tissue doesn’t self-lubricate, so don’t skimp. Healthline recommends water-based options, but the best choice is the one that works with your toy and keeps everything slippery. Think of it as the unsung hero of pegging.
Every beginner stumbles, but a little foresight can save you from common slip-ups. One mistake is skipping the warm-up. Diving straight in rarely feels good, and can hurt. Another is forgetting about angle – going in straight like a dartboard bullseye is not the move. Tilt, shift, and adjust until it feels right.
We’ve said it before, and we’ll say it again: Make sure you’re using a toy or strap-on that’s made for anal play. That means it’s crafted from penetration-safe materials and has a flange (flared base) or is secured to a belt or harness so that it cannot get stuck where it’s going to lead to an embarrassing emergency.
And finally, don’t let porn be your teacher. Real sex is slower, messier, and much more fun when you focus on your partner rather than trying to copy a performance.
Pegging is hot because it messes with expectations. Maybe it’s the taboo, maybe it’s the role reversal, maybe it’s just that butt stuff feels good. For some, the thrill is in giving up control. For others, it’s in taking it. And sometimes it’s both, depending on the night.
It also busts a lot of myths. No, enjoying pegging does not make a man “less straight.” And no, you don’t need to be a pro with a strap-on to make it work. What pegging really shows is that good sex isn’t about sticking to a script. It’s about exploration, honesty, and finding what actually makes you and your partner tick.
Once the fun is over, take a breather together. A cuddle, a laugh, maybe even a debrief about what worked best. The best part of pegging isn’t just the act itself, it’s the sense of trust and playfulness that comes with it. You’ll probably find yourself talking about it long after the harness is put away.
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