What is soaking? The purity-culture workaround explained, and why it's still sex.
Soaking is when two people who've agreed to abstain from sex have penetrative sex without moving, telling themselves it doesn't count because there's no thrusting. Spoiler: it's still sex. The term picked up steam online describing a workaround some purity-culture communities use to technically keep a pledge while not really keeping it. We're not here to judge anyone's beliefs about waiting — just to say that if you're doing mental gymnastics to make something "not count," it's worth being honest about what's actually happening.
